Most of the stories I read I felt that I could relate to. These stories were mostly extreme experience that each girl has had and while I can't say any of my stories are this extreme I still believe that I have been in some similar situations. I can relate to
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The two of us because they describe their family dynamics. The way Alicia Davis describes her relationship with her dad is very similar to my relationship with my mother. I like my mom and I am obligated to my mom however most of the time we fight. We are too similar, personality wise, for us to get along most of the time; however just like Alicia, my mom and I bond over interests. I feel that this is the same with most adolescent kids and their parents. It is hard for adolescents to get along with their parents because the teen is trying to form their own identity and for this they need space; however, the parents are afraid of their child getting hurt or getting into trouble so they try to keep them close. This causes the fights between the child and their parents. Yet, they can bond over the smallest of interests, where even in the toughest times, can help remind them that they love each other.
The Two of Us by Hannah Morris is about Hannah's relationship with her twin sister. I do not have a twin, but I have a sister that is only 18 months older then me and we have a very similar relationship to Hannah and her sister. My sister is my best friend and I feel like we can understand each other when others can't. I know that I can trust her with anything and she will never betray me. I am very blessed to have this relationship with her because I feel that during adolescence most siblings and families in general tend to grow apart. Most of my friends, during adolescence, grew distant from their siblings and found them to be a nuisance or they realize that they never had a good relationship with them in the first place. I believe this is because during adolescence we do not want to be limited or told what to do. A younger sibling would have to be taken care of and an older sibling would over shadow them. I, however, found my sister to be my support and the person I turned to when things got rough.
Getting along with parents can be difficult if there is a personality conflict and/or if some has insecurity issues. My mother is my best friend. We do not always see eye to eye on everything, but somehow it does not get in the way of friendship. I do not try to usurp her role as my mother and she never ventured into my space as a child. I refer to her as my best friend because I can tell her everything and I always have. I guess it is because I know I can trust her to not betray me and to always be there. When I look back over my childhood I see that there is a lot to be said about mothers staying home and raising the children. All in all I know plenty of teens who fight with their parents and really do not like them. I did have that kind of relationship with my father. I just did not like him. He deserted us. How could I like someone who did not love me enough to stay? Thank God I was able to get over that before he died.
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